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Men DO care how they look…they just don’t verbalize it as much

It’s not rocket science to know the pressures put on women to look a certain way to be perceived as “beautiful.” They spend hours getting ready. Getting their eye shadow…just right. Picking out the most flattering outfit for their figure. Eating healthier options to keep their school girl figure.

Most women I talk to truly think men have it MUCH easier. In some aspects, we do. I can get ready in half of the amount of time it takes my wife. But, I have less hair to shampoo, I don’t shave my legs and I don’t wear makeup. That buys me almost an hour more, it seems.

Yet, I am not alone when it comes to wanting to look good, be healthy and stay attractive for my mate. The guys at work are all the same. We talk about needing to hit the gym more, getting fit for the beach, getting a fake tan for a nice glow. We discuss the best place to get a haircut and on occasion, and once in a blue moon, we will join our wives for a mani/pedi.

No, not all guys groom themselves the same. I work with your typical white, conservative men and was surprised at first to learn they felt the same as I do.

We have inner envy for the guy that walks by with the six-pack abs and lean physique. We quickly glance at our wives to see if they are staring as we look down at our fluff-pack.

My wife said something yesterday that really hit me.

She said, “Most people strive to look their best when they are single. I think they should try even harder once married.”

I asked her why and she replied, “Because you have someone you love to be healthy for, to live longer for, to look your best for.”

That makes sense. We do tend to whip it into shape when we are on the hunt, but then we settle down and let our waistlines expand. Our love grows into handles.

All of this aside, I think it’s just something you have to do for yourself!

Women are hard on themselves, but so are we men. We feel we have to look a certain way to turn heads and make girls drool.

The whole thing is funny if you think about it. We all worry so much about what we look like. Yet, that all changes. Physically, we change over time. You can nip, snip and tuck, but your body will continue to get older.

Instead of focusing on what you look like, focus on being healthy…and this applies for EVERYONE.

Being in shape and eating healthy is what it is all about…the end result of a bangin’ body (and better sex life) should only be a bonus factor!

In the meantime, don’t criticize yourself when you look in the mirror. All that does is hamper your self-confidence and it makes you want to give up. Negativity is not motivational. Instead, tell yourself how proud you are of yourself for _________ (fill the the blank with “going to the gym”, “eating a healthy meal”, etc.)

Keep your chin up! You’re a champ, not a chimp!

Okay, well maybe being THIS chimp wouldn’t be so bad.

HiYa! Karate Chop!


written by: Tristan Skye

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Health & Fitness: 10 tips to stay fit for life

If your New Year’s resolution is to lose weight, get healthy and stay fit, here are some tips to help you make it last more than a couple of months. These tips will help you keep your resolution for life!

  1. Big Brother is watching. A food journal is the best way to keep track of your diet. It can also play the role of an accountability partner. At www.calorieking.com you can search food items to help you track down your daily intake and make sure you stay in check. Many smartphones have applications to help you keep track of calories, fat grams, carbs and more. One of these free apps is called “Lose It!” (www.loseit.com). Another fun app is “Foodpics Log” which uses your smartphone’s camera to capture what you really eat. Check out, tweetwhatyoueat.com, a free diary that lets you set up a Twitter-based food diary and track your weight and calorie intake. If you want even greater accountability, you can set up a profile on Body Space www.bodybuilding.com, track your progress, set goals and join in with others striving for the same goals. You can even find a group in your area that will help support you like the Weight Watchers group at ALHI (Atlanta Lesbian Health Initiative).
  2. Cheat to beat defeat. Allow yourself one cheat meal per week. This does not suggest an entire day of McDelight, but make sure you reward yourself to one meal per week that consists of foods that you are not allowed in your new diet plan.
  3. Drop the Yo-Yo. Think of it as a “lifestyle change” not a diet. It’s easy to fall prey to “yo-yo dieting” with all of the diet trends and fads out there. Most of them you cannot do for long-term, some of them even have risk-factors. Make sure to find a new style of eating that is healthy for the rest of your life. This can even include successful programs such as Weight Watchers, the Vegan RAW Diet or the Eat-Clean Diet. One great place to find “clean-eating” recipes is at www.hungry-girl.com.
  4. Get Physical. Be active. Not everyone has the finances to join a gym or hire a personal trainer, but you have to make time. For a minimum of 30 minutes 3 days per week, schedule to be active. This could include jogging, yoga, pilates, rock climbing, kickboxing, riding your bike, Wii Fit, walking your dog or anything that helps get your heart pumping. Download the app for MapMyFitness.com or RunKeeper.com which uses your phone’s GPS and calculates how many calories you burned. Permanent marker physical activity on your planner and even if you don’t feel like it, do it anyway. The endorphins will actually help you feel better once you’re done exercising. You will feel even better yet when you fit into those incredible jeans a size or two smaller.
  5. Just Breathe. Stress releases a steroid hormone called cortisol, produced by the adrenal gland. Cortisol is the nasty thing that invites Mr. Jiggles to move in to your mid-section. Meditation is an easy way to relax. Other ways include doing things you enjoy that are therapeutic; like art, writing, reading a book or listening to music. If you find your anxiety starting to increase, you can take deep breaths, holding it for a count of 3, then releasing for a count of 8. Another tip that is rather amusing is to “flick” yourself. Wear a rubber band and when you start to feel overwhelmed, pop the band and your body will immediately become distracted and alert the attention of your central nervous system elsewhere. When you are at work, make sure to take a break as often as allowed. Oh, hate to break this to you, but playing on the internet is not a stress reliever.
  6. You snooze, you lose. Get adequate sleep every night. This is for minimum of 6 hours. If you have trouble catching your z’s, melatonin is a natural sleep aid that might assist you, instead of turning to medications that include long lists of side-effects. Sleeping allows your body to recover so you feel refreshed enough to tackle the next day. Too much sleep counteracts this philosophy, so try to keep your snooze at a maximum of 8 hours.
  7. Do not play Scale Wars. Do not weigh yourself every day. Watching the numbers on the scale can sometimes make you feel like all efforts are lost. Even with dieting, our bodies can hold excess water on certain days, which make us feel bloated and will reflect on the scale. Another thing to keep in mind, the more muscle you develop can actually increase your weight since muscle weighs more than fat. I suggest doing body measurements and you will notice your weight loss by how your clothes fit. Keep track of your body mass index (BMI) and body composition: fat versus lean mass. Try not to step on the scale more than once per week and do it first thing in the morning. Preferably, without wearing clothes or shoes.
  8. 8. Say Goodbye to Sugar High. Sugar is proven to be addictive. Your body will start to crave everything from ice cream to peanut butter cups. Choose natural sugar alternatives instead, like stevia, raw honey or agave nectar. Many products are also available that are “healthy sweet treats.” This will help curb your need to get that quick fix. Aim for no sugar added or sugar-free products.
  9. 9. Recycle. Donate your clothes, once they outgrow you. Reward yourself with new clothes. A bargain way to do this is to shop at your neighborhood thrift store. Once you no longer own your bigger britches, you are motivated to stay on the fast-track to success as you sport your new lean-and-mean jeans!
  10. 10. Mirror, Mirror on the wall. Last but not least, look in the mirror every day and tell yourself one positive thing about yourself. Even if you don’t believe it, speak it into existence. Daily affirmations provide you with positive energy to help motivate you, build your confidence and self-worth. You are getting healthy because you are worth it! You love yourself and it’s good to compliment yourself and have a little self-esteem a boost. On days you reach a goal, take yourself out on a special date. Spoil yourself!


The Hangover (aka: beer belly). One way to add liquid calories and carbs faster than a speeding bullet is by indulging in alcohol. If you choose to booze, remember that you are safer with clear liquors and low carb, low calorie beer. Beware of sugary mixers! For the winos: red is better overall for you than white. Try to limit how many drinks you have per week. Once you continue to curve drinking down, watch your belly magically disintegrate. Presto Chango!


Now that you have the tools, go out there and be a healthier you! You CAN do it. 2011 is your year to rise, shine and get (and stay) lean!


Written by  Tristan Skye

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TQ Nation EXCLUSIVE Interview: Buck Angel

TQ Nation had the pleasure to interview ‘the man with a vagina’ himself, Buck Angel.

Buck Angel changed the world in his transition from a female runway model to the biggest pioneer in the adult entertainment industry as a FTM (female-to-male) entertainer.  Buck Angel is known for his establishments and his desire to educate others.  He is a world-renowned artist who has been celebrated and acknowledged for his work and accomplishments.

If you haven’t already, I suggest you subscribe to Buck Angel’s YouTube channel (covering everything from his career to his personal stories and FTM-specific informative videos), Fan him on Facebook and Follow him on Twitter. Of course, you also need to go directly to his additional websites BuckAngelEntertainment.com and BuckAngel.com and to catch his latest videos, news, events, and photos!

Personally, I believe that Buck Angel is a revolutionary entertainer.  He has opened the eyes of the world to a completely “taboo” part of our community.  FTM’s have had a tendency to stay in the shadows of the public eye and even the acceptance of the GLBTQ community; however, with the leadership and public demand for a performer such as Buck Angel it has been a groundbreaking experience and illumination for the world.

Buck Angel is a very down to earth guy with a caring heart when it comes to mentoring his fellow female-to-male audience. Buck’s constant desire to educate and teach others has brought him notoriety in itself. The growing popularity of his tutorials and helpful vlogs on his personal YouTube channel is just one example. He also was recently asked to speak at Master’s Tea as part of Sex Week at the prestigious Yale University.

This year, Buck Angel was nominated for both the AVN and the XBIZ awards for Best Transsexual Release and for Transsexual Performer of the Year.  He has started his own projects and productions that are currently in development and on the road to igniting Transsexual awareness and entertainment on fire.

TQ Nation had the lucky opportunity to pin down (*wink) Buck Angel for an exclusive interview. We asked 10 questions and received answers that were intelligent, thoughtful and inspirational. Buck Angel is highly respected and admired for his efforts and mentoring within our community. Not to mention, he has changed the face of porn and he’s a TQ Nation citizen!

TQ Nation

Exclusive Interview

TQ: What do you believe has been your biggest role or accomplishment that has benefited the transgendered community?

BA: Self-Esteem! I have watched how in the beginning, most transmen did not like what I was  doing, but today I get so many emails thanking me for helping them to overcome their self loathing and total disregard for their bodies. It feels like I have given trans men an empowering vocabulary that they can use to describe themselves and to be proud of their identity. Many trans men are now using terms or phrases that I introduced through my work years ago in order to hook up with other guys: They are calling themselves  “A man with a pussy” and using it as hot sexy currency to attract other’s…It’s great!

TQ: What is the craziest thing one of your fans has ever done to get your attention?

BA: Honestly, I don’t really have any crazy fans. My fans are extremely respectful of me and my private space. It is kind of funny, because when I go to events to meet my fans, they are usually shy to approach me and I always have to make the first move!! It’s very sweet and cute to see how people act around me because I really don’t think of myself as being removed. I am actually very approachable.

TQ: Where do you see yourself in 10 years?

BA: Doing what I am doing! Changing the world through my films. I am moving more into making documentary films, but I will always have my hand on my sex work because I love it so much; I also think that sexuality is extremely important for us trans people… It has really helped me to feel good about myself and made me such a strong person, that I can see it being tremendously empowering for other trans guys.

TQ: Who is the one person that has played the most significant and positive role in your life? Why?

BA: By far my wife! Without her support from day one I would not be where I am today. When I came to her with the idea for “Buck Angel The FTM Pornstar”, she was totally blown away and thought it was brilliant. After about a year of doing it – getting nothing but hate mail and no support – I was ready to quit; but she was the one who told me to hang tough and that the work I was doing would some day change the world. Damn it, she was right! She never gets jealous, which, of course, is something that we, as a couple, get asked all the
time. I feel like the luckiest man in the world: She is bright, sexy and funny. We are basically soul mates.

TQ: What do you consider to be your greatest achievement so far in life?

BA: My Marc Quinn sculpture. He is an amazing artist and he made a life size bronze nude sculpture of me, which is currently being exhibited at the Armory Show in NYC.  I think it is the first sculpture of it’s kind in the world. It is getting so much international press because I think that people are seeing for the first time what a naked transgender man looks like ( with a vagina!) How amazing is that. 

TQ: Being a face in the “limelight”, what types of privacy or safety concerns have you faced? How did you deal with them?

BA: I just spoke at Yale University and I received e-mails from people threatening that hey were going to kick my ass when I arrived..
Well, I just thought they were idiots and paid no attention to them; but Yale took it very seriously and had police stationed outside at every event that I attended.

On a daily basis, I will get some nut job sending me hate mail, telling me that I am what is wrong with the world today. But you know, it does not bother me; I figure, if I can get people that crazy or worked up about what I am doing, then I must be doing something right! I am told that I should take these things a bit more serious, but I refuse to live my life in fear of these people. I had to live in hiding for so many years because of society’s outdated rules.  So, I do not let it effect my daily life.

TQ: What’s the biggest piece of advice you would give someone who wants to follow in your footsteps?

BA: Think it through and don’t just make any movie. Make sure you realize that this will be a part of your life forever. It is an awesome profession and I have made so many great friends, but, with that said, there are many folks out there who do not care about you; they are only concerned about making a buck off you.  So have your head on straight, know what you want and practice safe sex only!

TQ: What inspired you to make your bodybuilding videos? Your physique is highly admired by transmen everywhere, what is the most important thing you have learned about bodybuilding as a transman?

BA: Thanks so much! Well I was getting so many emails from guys asking that question “How do I get a body like yours?” and you know, I realized I basically had to learn all by myself how to create the body I wanted. The doctors don’t tell you anything about the effects of testosterone on your body. Without working out and eating right you will just add fat. I want to help guys not go through what I went through and basically provide accurate information so that they can make healthy choices make . I would say one of the most important factors for my body was food. That can make or break your muscle growth. Eat healthy with one day off for pizza or whatever is your favorite junk food.

TQ: TQ Nation is giving you a personal soap box – What do you want to say? (include your spout outs, vents, complaints, thanks or anything you want people to know)

BA: HAA!! That’s funny because I am the kind of guy that speaks my mind and I never need a soapbox to do that. I would have to say that I really feel happy to see more of the trans men community coming around to support me.

It was a bit harsh in the beginning when I had to deal with all these hostile guys. I came to realize that community can be a bit of a burden and basically a barrier keeping trans guys from growing into individuals. I think it is so important not to do what the next guy is doing just because he says “ that’s how its done “…Be an individual! Make changes the way you want NOT the way the “community” is telling you to.

Gender and sexuality are such a broad spectrum.

TQ: What upcoming events, appearances or movies can your fans look forward to?

BA: I am off to Portland and Los Angeles to do shows and filming my new documentary on transmen and sex. You can read more about there here.

Then I am finishing up my next film called “Buck Angel’s Tattooed and Screwed”.

After that, I head to Amsterdam and Finland to perform; then off to London for the opening of the Marc Quinn Show.

In June, I will be speaking at a conference called IdeaCity10 in Toronto, which I believe I am the first transman to do so.

Then I will be a part of Pride Toronto, with my own vehicle in the Parade. After that I think I need a break!

Thank you so much for the interview and make sure to check out all my websites!


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