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WIN A FREE Autographed Copy Of Transgender Journey: Real Stories From Around The World!

Here’s your chance to win a FREE Autographed copy of Transgender Journey: Real Stories From Around The World!

Front CoverAll you have to do is:

1. Upload a video to YouTube (any length) answering the question: “What would you tell someone who is transgender or gender queer that is contemplating suicide?”

2. The title of the video needs to be “Transgender Journey: Real Stories From Around The World – MY Answer!”

3. In the description of the video, you must put the following:
“If you need to talk to someone, please contact the Trevor Project immediately 1-866-488-7386. For more info on the book, visit

4. Email the link to your video to: by 11:59pm EST August 31st!

One person will be randomly selected to win a free copy of the book and it will be shipped to them!

Winner announced on Sept. 1st!

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Transgender Journey: Real Stories From Around The World – BOOK RELEASE!

Front CoverIn January 2015, I asked 10 questions. These questions were answered by Transgender / Gender Queer individuals from all around the world that included: all walks of life, all shapes, sizes and ages with different beliefs and life experiences.

I had no idea the profound responses I would receive. Transgender Journey: Reals Stories From Around The World is an intricate look inside the personal lives of almost 40 people located in countries spanning from the United States all the way to small dot on the map called Slovenia.

The words inside this book reach into the depths of the soul, awakening anyone who picks it up to read. This book is perfect for those who are new to the journey, for family and friends who want to learn more, or for anyone who loves reading about the fascinating journeys of others.

You may laugh, you may cry. No doubt this book will make a lasting impression in your mind (and heart) for years to come. Learn about the obstacles, the joy, the depression, the fear, the happiness, the triumph…and everything in between.

Real Stories. Real Lives. Real Answers.

Buy a copy today!

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NC HB2 – James Parker Sheffield Dispels Myths About Trans People

In the wake of HB2 (Transgender individuals must use bathrooms equal to their birth sex assignment) passing in North Carolina, James Parker Sheffield from Atlanta, GA invited park goers in Washington Square Park to ask him questions about his life and experiences as a trans man.

Here’s what happened. (Facebook Video via Huffpost)

Natural Transitioning: An FTM Alternative SECOND EDITION: Click Here!

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Tristan Skye’s Farewell Address to TQ Nation

(*email sent to all TQ Nation members on 8/20/2015)

To my dearest citizens of TQ Nation,

I first created this social network back in 2007 with the hopes of connecting with others in the transgender community as I started my own personal journey. Originally, it was called TransAmerica. Quickly, it populated worldwide and the name changed appropriately to TransQueer Nation, now primarily called TQ Nation. Currently, we are approaching 13,000 members from across the globe.

From 2007-2012, I was very active in the community as a trans activist. I led trans marches at Pride events, spoke at conferences, did multiple interviews, had cameos in a couple of documentaries, wrote a book and, most importantly, I helped many people with their journey. That, in itself, will always be a very treasured time of my life. I feel a purpose in my life is to help others. My life was very public and at that time and it was completely acceptable for me.

In 2013, I started to take myself down another path of transitioning to being stealth. Virtually, I slowly removed my face from the community and removed videos and photos accordingly. I was ready to simply live my life in a more private manner and remove the label from myself. We all have a different journey and many paths we choose. We must respect each other and what choices are made for each individual life.

I chose to be the man I was born to be without having “transgender” be a topic of every day conversation. It had seemingly become my only identity and was consuming. Now, I have no label except for being Tristan. A soul walking this earth growing and learning more with each passing day, while trying to remain a loving light to others around me. I still help people, but it is not limited to the transgender community.

The main moderators of TQ Nation over many, many years is Shy and Lloyd. Since 2013, they have been the primary leaders of TQ Nation and I have simply paid the bills, so to speak, with minimal participation. Many of you on here may not even know who I am. I am passing the torch over to them to now be the executive leaders of TQ Nation and I am officially saying farewell.

I will always feel a great depth of love for this website and for all of the people who has kept it alive for the past 8 years. Shy and Lloyd are determined to take it to greater places. I know they will.

I am thankful for all of those in the community who remain trans activists and do so much to help others and provide a positive voice. Considering the events we keep hearing of lives lost too soon, there is still much work to be done. The journey is never easy and we all can probably attest to some dark times. But, yes, there is light at the end of the tunnel and it’s glorious.

An email went out from Shy about donations to TQ Nation. Shy and Lloyd now are responsible for all of TQ Nation, which includes the funding to keep it going for years to come. If you have any issues sending a donation, contact directly.

product_thumbnailBOOK RELEASE: I have great news, yet way overdue. Natural Transitioning: An FTM Alternative finally has a second edition. It took a long time, but it is well worth it. This edition is quite different from the first and takes a truly natural, holistic approach, with guidance from naturopathic doctors (from both the United States and Canada), Chinese medical practitioners and herbalists. Not only is this a guide book that will help you transition without synthetic hormones, it is also a guide book to help you achieve a greater health for your overall being. CLICK HERE to learn more.

TRANSGENDER JOURNEY BOOK RELEASE: You may remember my requests from all of you regarding answers to questions about your life and your journey. I’m sure you probably thought that book would never happen. The great news is that it is in the copy editing stage and it will be, I think, one of the best compilations of transgender literature to date.

Thank you all for all of the love and support over the years. Remember, you are never alone, your are worthy, you are loved.

Cheers to your journey!

Tristan Skye

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Bruce Jenner Tells Diane Sawyer He’s “Excited To Be Able To Do Some Real Good”

ABC has kept much of Friday’s two-hour Diane Sawyer interview with Bruce Jenner under wraps, apart from just a few teasing previews.

While it’s widely expected that Jenner will talk about his reported gender transition, that has not yet been confirmed. Sawyer said on Friday’s Good Morning America that she’ll let Jenner do the talking.

Read MoreBruce Jenner Wonders “How Does My Story End?” in New Promo for Diane Sawyer Interview

“Some things, some stories should only be told by the person who lives them,” she said. “And he wants to speak directly tonight, so I’m going to let him say first what he wants to say.”

But she did debut a few more seconds of her sit-down. In the below clip, unveiled on GMA, Sawyer asks Jenner if after the several days of conversations they had there was anything she hadn’t asked that he wanted her to ask him.

He came up with, “Are you going to be OK?”

So will he be OK?

Read MoreBruce Jenner Talks Family in New Diane Sawyer Promo: “I Can’t Let Myself Hurt Them” “Yeah, I hope I’m gonna be OK. I feel like I’m gonna be OK,” Jenner said. “2015 is going to be quite a ride. Quite a ride.”

Sawyer also talked about the role of family in Jenner’s story, revealing that they talked to his older sister, who tells her what she saw when they were growing up.

“I think you’re going to learn about family love,” Sawyer said. “This is a family love story.”

Read MoreBruce Jenner Tells Diane Sawyer, “My Whole Life Has Been Getting Me Ready for This,” in Interview Promo When asked what she hopes people take away from tonight’s special, Sawyer said she hopes it leads to conversations.

“I hope people talk with other people, with families, with their friends, because there’s so much to think about, not just about what he’s going to tell you but about everyone’s life,” she said.

In conclusion, Sawyer said her special is about “understanding” and “learning.”

Read More’Transparent’ Star Jeffrey Tambor Defends Bruce Jenner: “It’s Not Fair…Let’s Get a Perspective on This”

Sawyer also appeared on Live! With Kelly and Michael to discuss the special. She reiterated that she’ll let Jenner speak for himself and unveiled an even longer clip of him doing just that, including the few seconds shown on GMA.

The Live clip also features Jenner talking about what’s to come.

“I’ve got my health, I’ve got my children. I’ve got family. I’ve got seven grandkids now,” he said. “I’m actually really excited about the future, about what I could do, to be able to do some real good in the world.”

Read MoreDiane Sawyer’s Interview With Bruce Jenner Gets Two-Hour Primetime Special

Sawyer, who said she hadn’t met Jenner before their interview added that he is “strong.”

“He knows this is a big interview. He knows this is a big day for him, but he is really sentimental about his family and looking forward to what is ahead,” she said.

The veteran journalist also admitted she was a bit surprised by the interest in her interview.

“I think it’s a story that we can come to and learn so much and ask so many questions,” she said. “You get to think in a new way about a lot of things.”

Watch GMA and Live’s previews below.

Original post: ABC Breaking US News

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Transgender Surgery Help: Prevent or Reduce Scars

A scar screams look at me.

That’s what it can feel like anyway to the individual bearing such a physical marker of trauma to the body. And on those warm, clothing-optional days of summer, or in the privacy of your bedroom, with a loved one or partner, that stings.

Some folks go to extreme lengths to conceal their scars without knowing that a little scar prevention and scar treatment cream for developing and existing scars can reduce a scar or even prevent it completely. This is great news for those of us who have undergone surgery as part of our transitioning process.

In this article, you will find out how to care for a wound and to nip a scar before it develops. You’ll also learn how to care for existing scars, and how a scar treatment system, like Dermefface FX7 Scar Reduction Therapy can fade a scar and the damage it does to your self-confidence.

Prevent a Scar Before it Develops

The single best thing you can do to prevent a scar is to get it early.

Scars form for a variety of reasons, including acne, chicken pox, surgery, an injury or child-birth via caesarian section. Depending on the origins of and severity of the trauma, a scar can take anywhere from several months to two years to develop.

Though surgery, serious injury and more severe trauma to the body tend to cause the most noticeable scarring, even a light scrape can become a scar if you don’t take basic precautions. For basic scar prevention, do the following:

Clean a Fresh Scrape or Cut – Run the wound under clean water. Remove pebbles or splinters with alcohol-sterilized tweezers. Carefully wash the wound with soap and a clean cloth. Avoid harsh soaps, hydrogen peroxide, alcohol and iodine for minor wounds, as these can delay the healing process.

Cover Up – Cover your scrape or wound to reduce bacteria, dirt and irritants. Keep the wound moist, preferably with an antibiotic cream or ointment. The last point is especially important, as it will reduce the appearance of your scar should it develop.

Don’t Pick the Scabs – After an injury, the body immediately starts the healing process, with white blood cells that attack bacteria and red blood cells, platelets and fibrin that form a clot over the wound. Pick at the scabbing that develops and not only do you risk re-opening the wound, you open the door for bacteria that can create a larger, more prominent scar.

Stubborn Wounds and Existing Scars

Despite your best efforts, it’s not impossible that a scar will form regardless of the time and TLC you’ve put into scar prevention. That’s life – some folks are more prone to scarring than others.

A deep scar involves all three dermal tissues: the subcutaneous, dermis and epidermis, and can take up to two years to develop. In other words, if the wound is lingering, it’s time to shift to reduction mode.

First, be aware that scars tend to develop in areas of the body that are constantly being pulled and strained. The chest and shoulders are common areas for scarring to develop, and in that light, it’s a good idea to avoid heavy lifting or upper-body exercises as your wound continues to heal.

Second, consider a scar reduction system as the scar develops. This should reduce the severity of the scar and makes a less painful treatment than laser surgery, which is usually done after the scar is completely formed.

Scar Reduction Therapy With a Cream

A scar treatment cream is formulated with active natural ingredients, moisturizers and patented peptides to interact with the skin’s 28-day regeneration process. Specifically, it should:

Stimulate Natural Collagen Production – Both skin-healing type III and skin-strengthening collagen I.

Push Scarred Skin Cells to the Surface – A scar treatment cream gently nudges the skin healing process so that dead and damaged cells rise to the surface of the skin, where they’re sloughed away.

Increase Production of Healthy Skin Cells – With more collagen production and exfoliation of dead skin cells, normal, healthy skin cells replace scarred skin, for visible reduction of scarring.

Studies show that niacinamide, beta glucans and some antioxidants, including tocopherols, can reduce hyperpigmentation and encourage natural, healthy turn-over of skin cells. Such natural ingredients moisturize, exfoliate, and ultimately, reduce and even prevent scarring.

If you want to prevent or reduce scarring without steroids or laser treatment, opt for Dermefface FX7 Scar Reduction Therapy by the Skinception line of skin-care products, which as clinical studies suggest, may reduce scarring in as little as four weeks.

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2012 in review

The stats helper monkeys prepared a 2012 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

4,329 films were submitted to the 2012 Cannes Film Festival. This blog had 21,000 views in 2012. If each view were a film, this blog would power 5 Film Festivals

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TransParent Files: The First Six (6) Months

No, no, no! I’m not the preggo one. That takes guts…and,well, a uterus. I will joyfully leave that up to women and transmen who are up for the challenge. I bow to you!

Since I’m a brand-spanking-new-to-be-dad (could I add another hyphen?), I thought I’d start sharing a bit of life as the spouse of a pregnant person.

You’re pregnant?

Finding out was truly the ultimate. You FINALLY see a second, pink line and your jaw drops. It’s kinda sorta like the way you felt the first time you went to Disney World…only this is ten times better.

It’s like you have that whole, “I believe it! I don’t believe it! I believe it! No, really?!?” You start to feel a little bit cuckoo inside…or maybe that was just me because my wife told me in the wee hours of the morning?

She jolted out of bed and said, “I think I’m pregnant!” at 2am. I mumbled something…and rolled over back into dream land. Next thing I know, it’s around 4:30 and I hear, “Tristan…can you please look at this and let me know if I’m crazy or not?”

I tried to swallow the cobwebs that had formed inside my mouth, went to the bathroom, rubbed my eyes and looked at the preggo pee stick on the countertop.

All of the sudden, my eyes almost popped out of my head! “Oh my God!!! You’re not crazy! I see it!!! Two lines!!! You’re pregnant!”

Yeah, we didn’t go back to sleep. We danced around on cloud 9 (maybe even 10) until we had to get ready for work.

T0 tell or not to tell, that is the question

Not telling anyone is like having the ultimate secret. They say to wait until the first trimester is over with just in case of a miscarriage…and we totally tried this…and we waited…and we made it…I think, two days?

The excitement is overwhelming!!! Sicily got a blood test and it was officially confirmed (not like the 10 preggo pee tests were wrong, or anything…) It’s like you can’t hear that your pregnant enough once you first find out. She peed on test sticks for the entire first month!

The First Trimester

Hormones, cravings and shopping…OH MY!

The first three months so far have been my LEAST favorite of pregnancy. Sicily was on progesterone to help sustain the baby and reduce the risk of miscarriage. All this did was make her hormones rage and I had that every day feeling of the dreaded “I do everything wrong!” (I even breathed incorrectly)

The food cravings began and we started to hit every Persian and Mediterranean buffet we could find. There was hummus always amoung us…and yes I rhymed on purpose.

As she slowly started to put on weight, well, so did I. This was the beginning of my “sympathy weight gain” which I wasn’t sympathizing with her…I just felt like I needed to eat for 2…or 3…or 4 myself!

Feeling your pants tighten and moving up a size doesn’t make you feel so hot. I will discuss this more in just a minute or ten (depending on how fast you read).

As a new dad and son of a mega-shopaholic mother…I decided to start hunting down some good deals for the baby.

What a big mistake!

All that did was make Sicily go bonkers since the first 3 months is a kinda scary time. She thought I would jinx the pregnancy by going ahead and buying stuff.

So, I snuck in a pair of baby boots and hid them in a drawer. Who knew she would look in there??? I sure didn’t and I learned to put the brakes on shopping!

Instead of shopping, I uploaded every free pregnancy app I could find and added it to my Droid (whose name is Herman since he is part of the family, even though my wife hates him). I have a countdown widget on my phone and as of today we are in week 24 and have 113 days to go!

Another thing to help the excitement and pass the time was reading all of those books out loud to her. WOW! Who knew there were that many books out there on pregnancy! Of course, THE book all the moms-to-be call the “pregnancy bible” is What to Expect When You’re Expecting.

Personally, I detest this book. To me, it’s a gi-normous book to make a preggo person scared out of their wits. SURE, it’s informative…but, maybe a little too much. Sicily glued this book to herself because she adores it that much. I think she started to bond with that book more than with me! (no joke)

The chick books I dig are The Girlfriends Guide to Pregnancy and Belly Laughs by Jenny McCarthy. Yup. If I’m going to read up on this stuff, I have to be able to chuckle about it to stay interested more than 10 minutes. SORRY. I have ADHD!

The ULTIMATE thing that happens during the 1st trimester is the ultrasound. Seeing your little nugget for the first time is beyond words (though, I will try to find some)…it is…fan-freaking-tabulous!!!!! Yeah, I had tears in my eyes and I gripped Sicily’s hand and watched our lil peanut on the screen!

Speaking of nuggets, you will be informed by all of the e-newsletters you get and your phone apps what the size of your bambino is week by week. You will be amazed at how many food items your baby will be the size of….my favorite was the orange. They said, “Your baby this week is the size of an orange. Pick one up, look at it, now eat it.” Seriously, folks. Kinda sick, eh? 🙂

The last thing I recall for the first BIG 3 was the heartbeat. Yup. Hearing that rapid thump, thump, thump makes your heart follow right in sync. Between the first ultrasound photo and hearing the heartbeat, you KNOW beyond a shadow of a doubt that this is the real deal. There is no turning back. A baby is really in her belly!!!!

The Second Trimester

Amazingly, the day the 2nd trimester appeared, it’s like a big DING! went off on the microwave and suddenly, Sicily liked me again! The progesterone days were over with and her hormones got to settle down a bit. She looked at me with a sparkle in her eyes instead of a hiss and snarl in her voice. Ahhh….maybe this won’t be so bad after all?

The first thing when you hit this point is a sigh of relief! At this point it’s more rare to have a miscarriage, so for us we started to settle in and enjoy the ride more.

Then next thing I noticed was Sicily’s baby bump forming. Watching a natural, competitive bodybuilder form a bump on her belly is actually quite fun! More for me than for her…(bahahahaha!)

Actually, Sicily has embraced the bump…and everything else that has changed. Some things, I don’t see at all and I think it’s a figment of her imagination, yet I have learned (or been trained) to be empathetic with all of her feelings…even if they sound cuckoo to me!

At 16 weeks, we went for a 4-D experience and THAT was incredible! That is when we found out we were indeed having a BOY (though, we both already had a gut feeling!)

Speaking of GUTS, let me go back to that…”sympathy weight.” Yeah. Good times. So, around this time is when my “big boy britches” were starting to get snug and I realized if I didn’t soon get a grip and drop the fork, I was about to look pregnant, too!

People tell you to sleep all you can now, but Sicily didn’t wait to start “nesting” until her 3rd trimester…she started in her FIRST. I have torn the house apart and been putting it all back together. Time for the gym? Only at 4:30am which I have forced upon myself a handful of times. But, it comes to a point where you realize that your health is important and you have a bun in the oven that NEEDS you around…for, like, a long time. So, I decided to start eating better and wake up earlier so I can be my very best and reach my goal weight by his birth.

Another incentive for me is the fact that Sicily still goes to the gym 5 days a week. Count them…1, 2, 3, 4, FIVE! Seriously? I’m not even kidding! I wish I was, but I’m not. I have the preggo lady outdoing me…and that’s just plain SAD! Kudos to her and BOO-dos to me. Bad, Tristan! *slap on the wrist*

On a “lighter” note: I think she fell in baby love with the bump when she first felt the baby’s first kicks, which she said felt like gas bubbles. The first time I felt our bambino kick was the evening before my birthday (around 18+ weeks). That has been my most favorite part of these 3 months!

The first time I felt it, I could tell it was this miniature, tiny foot softly thumping my hand. It felt like the size of a small grape (yup, another food comparison…you get used to this in pregnancy).

My heart melted and I still can’t get enough. Every time she tells me he is moving, my hand is drawn to her belly like a magnet!

One thing that I don’t think you “get” until you see it first-hand is what the GLOW is all about. YES, pregnant women DO glow! Sicily is like a beautiful version of my adolescent glow worm…and I can’t get enough. I stare at her dreamily and to me she is the most gorgeous I have ever seen her. There is just something extremely radiant about her being preggo and I have told her that I now want a whole litter just so I can keep her pregnant! (She, on the other hand, would probably shoot me in my sleep).

OH! I forgot to mention this part, but once you find out what you are having (if you choose to) the shopping can begin. This is especially fun, I’ve noticed, for first-time grandparents.

For us, we are thrifty people, so we have been bargain hunting and I believe we have saved hundreds (if not thousands) of buckaroos by buying clearance and gently used items. This, my friends, is the way to do it. Otherwise, you will become baby bankrupt!

Everything is a fortune! Plus, they make you feel like you have to buy a zillion things that are “must-have-items” …. seriously? Sorry, but I don’t remember having my baby wipes in a warmer when I was a little tater. I have a feeling my parents wiped my poopy butt with a cold, wet wipe and I turned out just fine. (Atleast that’s what I keep telling myself)
When Sicily said, “Enough is enough!” for the 30th time was when I felt we needed different types of strollers because I felt (was brainwashed?) they were crucial to have. I told her we needed a travel system, a jogging stroller, a lightweight stroller…at this point she said, “Can we PLEASE just wait for him to get here?” I debated with her and urged her that it’s smart to go ahead and have EVERYTHING before he gets here because we won’t have time once he is here.

After much deliberation, I realized what was truly going on within myself. I was STOKED and SCARED beyond belief at the situation and baby shopping was my therapy. And, yes, therapy is not free.

At this point of the adventure, my mind started to wander as I read through my personal books for soon-to-be fathers.

I started to ponder about life with a baby. I even thought of life as a trans father of a baby boy. Would I truly be able to measure up? Could I answer all of his questions in the future? Would I be lacking something?

I soon came to the realization that everyone has questions before they are a parent. We all strive to be “perfect” and yet when we aren’t (because, let’s face it…who is?) we feel like failures.

Yes, as a trans dad I will measure up, I can answer his questions and I will not be lacking anything. Wash, Rinse, Repeat.

I know I can always ask a relative or friend for answers when I have a question. I also had to reassure myself of who I am and regain my confidence in myself. I had come this far in life and becoming a daddy will be the next thing I’m triumphant and victorious with. I will not fail.

In all honesty, even though I’ve had my ups and downs with my own parents…they didn’t fail. When a parent truly does their very best and does so with what they feel is all the love in their heart…they aren’t failing. Sure, they made some bad decisions and messed up…sometimes, BIG time….but, they are HUMAN. And…so am I, most days. So, I can only do my very best as a dad and I know that first and foremost it’s about loving my son unconditionally and helping to guide his footsteps in his own journey of life so he will have what it takes to one day spread his wings and soar.

To be continued

As we approached the 3rd trimester in just a couple of weeks, my baby posts will become the “TransParent Files” series. Sicily just might post some, too! There is much more to come…and Sicily is becoming a bit terrified at the realization her beloved bump is about to DOUBLE in size! (insert cheesy, horror movie music)


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2010 in review

The stats helper monkeys at mulled over how this blog did in 2010, and here’s a high level summary of its overall blog health:

Healthy blog!

The Blog-Health-o-Meter™ reads Wow.

Crunchy numbers

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A helper monkey made this abstract painting, inspired by your stats.

The average container ship can carry about 4,500 containers. This blog was viewed about 16,000 times in 2010. If each view were a shipping container, your blog would have filled about 4 fully loaded ships.

In 2010, there were 30 new posts, growing the total archive of this blog to 55 posts. There were 6 pictures uploaded, taking up a total of 752kb.

The busiest day of the year was November 4th with 546 views. The most popular post that day was Psycho Blogger, Psycho Videos, Psycho Butch…I just think she’s CRAZY.

Where did they come from?

The top referring sites in 2010 were,,,, and

Some visitors came searching, mostly for chaz bono, maxwell scott anderson, bianca nicole, aids, and tqnation.

Attractions in 2010

These are the posts and pages that got the most views in 2010.


Psycho Blogger, Psycho Videos, Psycho Butch…I just think she’s CRAZY November 2010
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Trans Man on ABC Dating Show! January 2010


TQ Shout Out to Chaz Bono & Video Clip Submissions Wanted! October 2009


First Trans Man to Be Voted Canada’s Sexiest Man! January 2010


TQ Nation EXCLUSIVE Interview: Lucas Silveira March 2010
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