Need a Mom to Talk To? Ally Moms = Amazing Women Across the World Helping Trans Youth

we-love-mom-beautiful-mother-hd-wallpaperWe are a group of moms who have come together because we have a transgender child. We live all across the United States, Canada and the UK. Our children are different ages and at different stages along their journeys. Some are just beginning to transition, some are living authentically as adults already. We come from different backgrounds and none of us have actually met (yet). What we have in common is an unconditional LOVE for our children. We are allies to the transgender community.

Many of you out there do not have the support you so richly deserve. As “Ally Moms” we have lots of LOVE and understanding to go around. Do you need a friendly ear to just listen? Do you just want to ask a question or say “hello?” It is so important to us that anyone who is transitioning or thinking about coming out has the tools they need. What we can offer is a kind word, a loving, virtual hug, or perhaps a suggestion or two. We will not judge.

Here are the guidelines for reaching out to an Ally Mom:

If you are experiencing a true emergency, please CALL 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. Or call the Transgender Crisis Hotline in the U.S. 877-565-8860 or in Canada 877-330-6366. The Trevor Project is also a great resource for anyone contemplating suicide: 866-488-7386.

Text one of us before calling; identify who you are and use the phrase “Ally Mom” so we know the nature of the call. Indicate if you prefer to text or would like a voice call.

You will get a text or call back. Here is the link to the Ally Moms list.

If you don’t get a call back within the hour, feel free to try another Ally Mom. As a courtesy, please let the first Mom know that you’ve connected with someone else so they can delete the request.

Remember, we are not therapists, medical doctors or trained crisis counselors. We are moms who are allies. We are opening our hearts to be there when we can when your own mom can not or is not there for whatever reason.

We were mentioned in Yahoo News also.

Leave a comment

Filed under Family, Support

Transgender Surgery Help: Prevent or Reduce Scars

A scar screams look at me.

That’s what it can feel like anyway to the individual bearing such a physical marker of trauma to the body. And on those warm, clothing-optional days of summer, or in the privacy of your bedroom, with a loved one or partner, that stings.

Some folks go to extreme lengths to conceal their scars without knowing that a little scar prevention and scar treatment cream for developing and existing scars can reduce a scar or even prevent it completely. This is great news for those of us who have undergone surgery as part of our transitioning process.

In this article, you will find out how to care for a wound and to nip a scar before it develops. You’ll also learn how to care for existing scars, and how a scar treatment system, like Dermefface FX7 Scar Reduction Therapy can fade a scar and the damage it does to your self-confidence.

Prevent a Scar Before it Develops

The single best thing you can do to prevent a scar is to get it early.

Scars form for a variety of reasons, including acne, chicken pox, surgery, an injury or child-birth via caesarian section. Depending on the origins of and severity of the trauma, a scar can take anywhere from several months to two years to develop.

Though surgery, serious injury and more severe trauma to the body tend to cause the most noticeable scarring, even a light scrape can become a scar if you don’t take basic precautions. For basic scar prevention, do the following:

Clean a Fresh Scrape or Cut – Run the wound under clean water. Remove pebbles or splinters with alcohol-sterilized tweezers. Carefully wash the wound with soap and a clean cloth. Avoid harsh soaps, hydrogen peroxide, alcohol and iodine for minor wounds, as these can delay the healing process.

Cover Up – Cover your scrape or wound to reduce bacteria, dirt and irritants. Keep the wound moist, preferably with an antibiotic cream or ointment. The last point is especially important, as it will reduce the appearance of your scar should it develop.

Don’t Pick the Scabs – After an injury, the body immediately starts the healing process, with white blood cells that attack bacteria and red blood cells, platelets and fibrin that form a clot over the wound. Pick at the scabbing that develops and not only do you risk re-opening the wound, you open the door for bacteria that can create a larger, more prominent scar.

Stubborn Wounds and Existing Scars

Despite your best efforts, it’s not impossible that a scar will form regardless of the time and TLC you’ve put into scar prevention. That’s life – some folks are more prone to scarring than others.

A deep scar involves all three dermal tissues: the subcutaneous, dermis and epidermis, and can take up to two years to develop. In other words, if the wound is lingering, it’s time to shift to reduction mode.

First, be aware that scars tend to develop in areas of the body that are constantly being pulled and strained. The chest and shoulders are common areas for scarring to develop, and in that light, it’s a good idea to avoid heavy lifting or upper-body exercises as your wound continues to heal.

Second, consider a scar reduction system as the scar develops. This should reduce the severity of the scar and makes a less painful treatment than laser surgery, which is usually done after the scar is completely formed.

Scar Reduction Therapy With a Cream

A scar treatment cream is formulated with active natural ingredients, moisturizers and patented peptides to interact with the skin’s 28-day regeneration process. Specifically, it should:

Stimulate Natural Collagen Production – Both skin-healing type III and skin-strengthening collagen I.

Push Scarred Skin Cells to the Surface – A scar treatment cream gently nudges the skin healing process so that dead and damaged cells rise to the surface of the skin, where they’re sloughed away.

Increase Production of Healthy Skin Cells – With more collagen production and exfoliation of dead skin cells, normal, healthy skin cells replace scarred skin, for visible reduction of scarring.

Studies show that niacinamide, beta glucans and some antioxidants, including tocopherols, can reduce hyperpigmentation and encourage natural, healthy turn-over of skin cells. Such natural ingredients moisturize, exfoliate, and ultimately, reduce and even prevent scarring.

If you want to prevent or reduce scarring without steroids or laser treatment, opt for Dermefface FX7 Scar Reduction Therapy by the Skinception line of skin-care products, which as clinical studies suggest, may reduce scarring in as little as four weeks.

Leave a comment

Filed under Uncategorized

A Safer, More Natural Approach to Weight Loss

How many times after complete frustration, have you succumbed and tried one of those ‘over the counter’ weight loss supplements that promise to help you shed those unwanted pounds? The claims seem impressive. Maybe even one of your friends has recommended a new one that they swear has worked for them. The choices are endless, but finally you just pick a pretty bottle and set out to finally get rid of that annoying excess weight.

But soon you realize that even if you notice you don’t feel that hungry, you do notice a complete change in your system. You start to feel jittery. Your stomach is constantly upset. The frequent trips to the bathroom with cramps are just out of control. You can’t sleep. The list goes on and on. Many of those side effects are a result of the ingredients in most over the counter weight loss supplements. Many drug store brands contain ingredient with side effects such as caffeine.

Caffeine has been touted as one of the effective ingredients in weight loss systems as initially it can decrease your appetite through its central nervous system response. However, other studies, including ones conducted by the Mayo Clinic suggest that caffeine may cause higher levels of cortisol, which actually stimulates an increase in appetite. So the main ingredient that is touted as helping to decrease weight, in actual fact works exactly the opposite.

Caffeine can also increase stress. It has this affect by elevating the stress hormones such as cortisol and adrenaline. Increase in stress can then have a very negative impact on your weight loss goals by decreasing your willpower and overall affecting your ability to stick to your intentions and keep losing weight.

Another negative effect of utilizing a weight loss supplement that contains caffeine is interruption of your natural sleep patterns. Often people complain that if they drink coffee too late in the day that they end up tossing and turning all night. Well weight loss pills that use caffeine as an ingredient in their formulas can have an adverse affect on your ability to get the rest that you need. And if you are not sleeping, then your ability to maintain your willpower is adversely affected for sure. Losing weight successfully really has to be simple and suffering from lack of sleep on top of all the other stress that comes with being overweight is simply not a good formula for anyone.

Now the researchers and doctors who have formulated the ProShapeRX weight loss system have purposely avoided ingredients such as caffeine and have devised a 100% natural formula that uses herb supplements to help control your cravings and help you stick to your weight loss goals naturally. Now that certainly sounds like a better way to go than putting yourself through more stress and less sleep. So give the ProShapeRX system a try. There is a 30 day trial offer so you have nothing to lose except a few extra pounds. So what are you waiting for? Take a positive step toward a new, thinner, healthier you.

For more information, go to ProShapeRX.com.

Leave a comment

Filed under Fitness

A Transgender 17-Year-Old Left A Suicide Note On Tumblr Pleading “Fix Society”

Leelah Alcorn wrote: “Gender needs to be taught about in schools, the earlier the better.”

Leelah Alcorn, a 17-year-old transgender girl from Kings Mills, Ohio, died on Dec. 28. A suicide note appeared on her Tumblr later that same day.

She had scheduled the letter to be published after her death.

Leelah Alcorn, a 17-year-old transgender girl from Kings Mills, Ohio, died on Dec. 28. A suicide note appeared on her Tumblr later that same day.

She wrote that she felt “like a girl trapped in a boy’s body” and had done so “ever since [she] was 4.”

Leelah said: “When I was 14, I learned what transgender meant and cried of happiness. After 10 years of confusion I finally understood who I was.”

But she felt she was isolated from society by her Christian family and said she was not given consent to transition on her 16th birthday, which “absolutely broke [her] heart.”

At the end of her letter she included this plea:

My death needs to be counted in the number of transgender people who commit suicide this year. I want someone to look at that number and say “that’s fucked up” and fix it. Fix society. Please.

Leelah had some advice for parents of transgender teens and children.

She begged them to never tell their child that being transgender is “a phase,” “that God doesn’t make mistakes,” or that they can never truly be the gender they feel they are.

If you are reading this, parents, please don’t tell this to your kids. Even if you are Christian or are against transgender people don’t ever say that to someone, especially your kid. That won’t do anything but make them hate them self. That’s exactly what it did to me.

She included this request for her will:

I want 100% of the things that I legally own to be sold and the money (plus my money in the bank) to be given to trans civil rights movements and support groups, I don’t give a shit which one. The only way I will rest in peace is if one day transgender people aren’t treated the way I was, they’re treated like humans, with valid feelings and human rights. Gender needs to be taught about in schools, the earlier the better.

Leelah’s mother posted this on Facebook.

Leelah's mother posted this on Facebook.

The post was initially made public, but Carla Wood Alcorn’s Facebook has since been set to private and the post apparently deleted.

Later on Tuesday, another queued post from Leelah appeared on her Tumblr, titled “SORRY,” in which she issued a series of apologies to friends and family. But to her mother and father, she wrote, “Fuck you. You can’t just control other people like that.”

And now for my sorry notes to some people I knew…

Amanda: You are going to have such a wonderful life. You are the most talented and pretty little girl I’ve ever met and I love you so much, Amanda. Please don’t be sad. I’m going to miss you so very much. I love you.

Tiffany: We haven’t talked much recently since we’re both so busy but I’m so happy you’re my sister. You are so courageous and determined to achieve what you want, you can accomplish anything. I love you.

Justin: We’ve been jerks to each other a lot recently but I really do love you. You get on my nerves almost all the time but no matter what a part of me will always love you. Sorry for picking on you so much when we were kids.

Rylan: I’m so sorry I’m never there for you. I love you so much.

Abby: Thank you for dealing with my pathetic problems, all I did was make your life harder and I’m sorry.

Mom and Dad: Fuck you. You can’t just control other people like that. That’s messed up.

I don’t really feel the need to apologize to anyone else… odds are you didn’t give a shit about me and if you do, you did something that made me feel like shit and you don’t deserve an apology.

Also, anyone who says something like “I wish I got to know him better” or “I wish I treated him better” gets a punch in the nose.

If you are struggling with suicidal thoughts or depression there are resources for help:

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (USA): 1-800-273-TALK (8255)

Transgender Lifeline (USA): +187 756 588 60

Samaritans (UK): 08457 90 90 90

Suicide Prevention (Aus): 13 11 14

 

Original article Buzzfeed: http://www.buzzfeed.com/jobarrow/a-transgender-17-year-old-left-a-suicide-note-on-tumblr-plea?bffb&utm_term=4ldqpho#4ldqpho

1 Comment

Filed under Support

What is DHT and Why Does it Play a Devastating Role in Hair Loss?

Transgender Woman Reverses Hair Loss – results after 8 months.

Science and countless studies have proven that hair loss is commonly caused thanks to an enzyme in the body that converts testosterone into something called DiHydro Testosterone, or DHT. Often, people suffering with hair loss are found to have increased levels of DHT within their body and scalp According to a WebMD article, “Hair follicles sensitive to DHT begin to miniaturize, shortening the lifespan of each hair follicle affected. Eventually, these affected follicles stop producing cosmetically acceptable hair.” Hair loss, thinning and receding hairlines caused by DHT can affect both MTF (usually not on hormones) and FTM (on testosterone).

This proven information has drastically changed the way that medical professionals viewed hair loss, and is the reasoning behind a powerful hair loss solution I found called Profollica. After trying numerous products, I finally found one I personally stand by. I have even had friends, both MTF and FTM, who have tested the product and are beyond happy with their results, which typically appear between 3-6 months. Profollica is all-natural, clinically proven and doctor approved.

Because of the fact that DHT contributes to the slowing down of the hair growth phase, the natural ingredients within Profollica are aimed at inhibiting DHT and allowing your scalp to battle back against the harmful effects that the hormone can have on your hair. DHT can force hair to lose its color, become more brittle, and fall out much faster than it usually would based on aging alone. Reducing the levels of DHT in the scalp has now been proven to be one of the very best ways to prevent hair loss and stimulate hair re-growth. According to Paulina Nelega, MLT, RH, “Dihydrotestosterone or DHT is widely accepted to be the main cause of hair loss, as a great percentage (95 percent) of cases of hair loss are caused by Dihydrotestosterone (DHT) production in the follicle of hair.”

While there are other hair loss products that aim at inhibiting DHT levels in the scalp, most of them are either overly expensive, unproven, full of harmful chemicals, or require a doctor’s visit and a prescription in order to purchase. That is where Profollica also proved to be the best choice for me. It contains only all-natural ingredients, is incredibly affordable when compared to other products, and has been proven to bring about positive results when it comes to the health of your hair and reversing hair loss.

DHT does not allow you to stimulate new hair growth and you have to connect with the receptors within your hair follicles to reduce DHT levels in your body overall. Most other promises made by other hair loss products can often prove simply to be a waste of time and money. Trust me!

Trans Man after using product for 6 months.

Trans Man after using product for 6 months.

The potent and natural ingredients of Profollica target the unwanted DHT in your scalp and improve the overall health of your follicles. While it may seem like genetics are to blame for your lack of hair, that doesn’t have to be the case. You now have the opportunity to take control of your head, your scalp, and your hair, and gain back your confidence. Plus, you can take off the hat or the wig! Bonus.

Profollica also has zero side effects. It’s truly a win-win and I give it an A+.

 

Written by: Tristan Skye

3 Comments

Filed under Medical, Research, Support, Transitioning

Pennsylvania Transgender Teen Commits Suicide by Stepping in Front of Train

Riley Moscatel - 17 year old transgender suicide victim

Riley Moscatel – 17 year old transgender suicide victim

First off, this should NOT be happening!!!

A whopping 41% of people who are transgender or gender-nonconforming have attempted suicide sometime in their lives, nearly nine times the national average, according to a sweeping survey released three years ago.

BREAKING NEWS: A suicide note left behind by a Pennsylvania transgender teen hints at depression and being “a prisoner” of his body.

“My mirror reflects Jessica, my heart and mind say Riley,” wrote Riley Moscatel, 17, on Tuesday just before he was killed by an oncoming Amtrak train near Croyden. “You see me as the happiest person in school, I’m a prisoner of my own body.”

Surveillance footage confirmed the suspicion that the Bucks County Technical High School senior born as Jessica took his own life at about 1:30 p.m. after fighting a private, but desperate struggle to identify as Riley.

The teen struggled with depression years before he decided to publicly self-identify as Riley earlier this year. However, in an interview with the Trentonian newspaper, his parents continued to reference him as their daughter.

“She did a really good job of masking her depression in front of the people that she loved,” his father, Rich Moscatel told the newspaper. “We’re still kicking ourselves as to what was the straw that broke the camel’s back. She was dealing with a lot of pressures.”

Riley had no problem adjusting from Jessica to Riley at his Fairless Hills school where other transgender or gay students attended including his friend, Kate Cimino, who described Riley as “everyone’s best friend.”

“Even though everyone showed support and called him Riley, it didn’t match up to what he felt of himself,” Cimino told the Philadelphia Inquirer.

Riley wanted to have breast surgery, but his mother, Kristine Moscatel, gave him a binder to help flatten his chest even though she admits his transition was hard to handle after having a daughter for 17 years.

“She’s my daughter. She’ll always be my daughter,” Moscatel told the Trentonian. “We were trying to accept and never said, ‘No, you can’t be a boy.’”

Riley had also been researching hormone treatments he could begin after his 18th birthday in December.

“If I could choose if I was born a girl or guy I would have chosen a guy,” Riley wrote in another Instagram post describing his female-to-male dysphoria. “Most female-to-males wouldn’t agree because (their) journey made them stronger, but it really takes a toll on me.”

Suicide attempts are higher among transgender people and stem from feelings of not belonging or burdening family members, the Inquirer reported.

His father said Riley had insecurities about starting his senior year and about going to college, but didn’t realize what would happen after a quick phone call on Tuesday.

Riley seemed happy and even giggled on the phone to say their family’s new dishwasher was shipped to their home.

Riley put his house key under the mat and went for a walk after that.

“The rest is the rest,” Rich Moscatel said. “She didn’t give anyone a chance to talk her off the ledge.”

For those in need of help, call 1-800-273-TALK for the National Suicide Prevention Line.

1 Comment

Filed under Spout Out, Support

The TQ Takeover! Important Message.

Hello friends and family,

I want to personally extend my gratitude for you being on TQ Nation. As most of you have noticed, I took a huge step (leap) backwards a couple of years ago. I was dealing with some personal, family issues and did not have the ability to stay at full capacity with my work in the community.

Over those years, I grew more into myself than all of the years prior combined. I am happy to say that today I am in the best place I have ever been. I had some healing to go through and some of that process involved TQ Nation. This site exploded with growth when I had my ex wife by my side (2008-2010) and when she pulled back from the community (2011) and eventually we divorced (2012), I believe a part of me associated TQ Nation with her. Then I realized this site has nothing to do with her or any one person. It is a community.

I created this website in Sept. of 2007 as a new trans guy who was absolutely clueless and didn’t know where to begin. I hoped someone would log on and tell me how to put on a binder! A couple of friends signed up to make me feel better and now today we have over 13,000 citizens internationally. Can I just say….what?!?!? Incredible. Totally mind-boggling.

So, why the TQ Takeover? It’s more of a TQ Take-back. The main point of TQ Nation is actually to SAVE LIVES. Yes, that is correct. We lose too many people because they don’t have a place to belong, anyone to talk to, nobody to relate to. They hate their bodies and feel lost and alone. Truly, the only part of them they want to die is the gender they don’t associate with…yet, some kill all of themselves. THIS CANNOT HAPPEN ANY LONGER.

I’m going to start focusing on suicide prevention within our community. You will see some changes in the near future.

 

Thanks again for being beautiful and living your truth!

Tristan Skye

Founder/President of TQ Nation

 

Visit TQ Nation at: http://www.transqueernation.com

 

Leave a comment

Filed under Support